Don’t destroy my country in the name of “Breaking news”!!!!!

India, one of the fastest developing countries in the world, has lost in the race of image perception both internally and externally. It is not because of myriads of corruption emerging each day cutting across party lines but because of electronic media’s poor strategy of adding television rating points. It is good that “media” both print and electronic media acting as the “fourth pillar” of Indian Constitution apart from Legislative, Executive and Judiciary. Playing such a high role, it should act more sensibly.

Without media’s effort no great scams have come to light .Few years back, medias are afraid of cunning politicians but now a day’s cunning politicians are afraid of media. It is sparing no one, whomever he may, and how powerful he may-thanks to vibrant media. It created “sense of fear” among wrong doing people mainly wrong doing politicians and bureaucrats. Sure it will reduce corruption in coming days. But at the same time it created much damage to the country’s image perception.

Mainly ,the electronic media in the name of “Breaking News” highlighting the scams and wrong doing doings of politicians and bureaucrats 24*7-that’s fine but at the same it need to focus on the positive side too. If a person with great ambition of civil service keeps on watching news channel, then sure he will drop his aim in a short span time because it is just highlighting the darker side of the country, like corruption done by bureaucrats ,politicians influencing bureaucrats, un-ethical transfers, mafia beaten honest officers and goons killed honest administrators etc. On seeing these entire things, one may get afraid of the civil service and quits his aim because it failed to create “sense of optimism” among the emerging younger generation. Many honest civil servants are doing great work to the country which goes un-noticed. If those works are highlighted along with the darker side of India, then the younger generation works hard to change the darker side to grey and then to white instead of quitting civil service. It is national shame to hear that 180 honest civil servants quit because of pressure from darker side groups in past ten years. The exam syllabus, selection procedure and the training before ,a person get into civil service are  in such a way that no one should think of corruption and wrong doings but because of the environment in which he is  forced to fit into the Darwin’s theory of “Survival of fittest”. He is afraid of frequent transfers, so many works that he intended to do have been destroyed at the budding stage itself.

Likewise, many politicians are doing great work to the country but those deserved things to be highlighted are gone un-noticed to the electronic media .For example, the great work of the rural development minister in campaigning for sanitation to all, vast deliberations on Genetically modified food by few members of parliament and good articulation about India and its policies in UN by the former Deputy-Prime minister etc. Few politicians deserve kudos towards their work but not all. If media mainly electronic media sheds light on good work done by some good politicians, then the younger generation will get into politics in order to eliminate the bad ones and to carry India in right direction. Now a day’s “Politics” is seen as a thing of un-touch ability by honest people.

If media keeps on highlighting bad things alone, then day by day politics and bureaucracy  will lose its image completely and  there will be full of goons in near future occupying the both .So the media should play positive role too in building up India with spreading optimism among the younger generation.

                                                                                

                                                                                   Govind Prakash         

                   Lokpal Bill fiasco

Lokpal is an independent ombudsman body (Legal Representative) in India which will deal with the corruption. It was first introduced in 1968 in the Loksabha(Lower house) by Shanti Bushan.But it failed to pass in the Rajyasabha(Upper house).Eight futile attempts were made to pass the bill since the introduction. Another attempt was made by UPA II on 27th December 2011, which was passed in Loksabha but it is pending with Rajyasabha. Congress passed the bill in the Loksabha with the help of SP and BSP walking out, showing their opposition with the intention to help the government to pass the bill by reducing the required vote. Many amendments were raised by main opposition party BJP and the left but none of them succeeded in getting them passed because Congress was adamant in accepting the opposition's demands.

As the bill passed in the Loksabha it was placed before the Rajyasabha where the Congress is minority which was forced to accept the amendments. Here the largest ally TMC opposed the bill and introduced the amendments. Two amendments were taken in hand by most of the opposition parties. One for autonomy of the CBI and the other for the creation of Lokayukta in states should be left with the state governments. If the Congress accepts the amendments in the Rajyasabha then the bill needs to be placed again in the Loksabha for the approval, so that the bill cannot be passed in the winter session. If the bill was put to vote in the current form then sure it would be rejected because of minority. So the Congress tried hard to appease TMC to support the bill in its current form but couldn’t. So the congress tried its best to avoid voting by keeping in mind that if the bill after voting failed, then it would cause great embarrassment to the government.

In order to avert voting congress executed two tricky plans. They want to run out of time so that three days of extended session will get over. As per the plan, first they brought quota for minorities issue which leads to disruption and the session was adjourned for about 15 minutes.

Next with the help of RJD MP, they scripted a most embarrassing ploy. An RJD MP directly went to the Minister of State in the Prime Minister's Office V Narayanasamy’s place where he was proceeding with the debate with his blurred voice and pulled the paper from his hands, tore and threw it.

But with a large heart Narayanaswamy continued with his speech which no one understood .For every point made by the opposition, he gave ridiculous answers. In simple words he gave poll campaign speech like "What the BJP and other parties done”. No valuable or counter point in his an hour long speech which was with the intention to run out of time. Finally clock ticks for 12 am and they succeed in running out time and Rajysabha was adjourned sine die.

As usual after everything there would be some blame game among government and the opposition. Here also it took place without any exception, but eventually more words were released against Congress, even from its allies. Opposition rightly called it as “a murder of democracy ". Once again we, the people of India failed to get anti-corruption bill because of the inept government and the opposition.

- Govind Prakash

My Article in civilserviceindia.com website.

URL:http://www.civilserviceindia.com/subject/Essay/lokpal-Govind.html 

joyful chatting on 17th august2010

Culprits involved in this...
1.Ragavendra
2.Vedhagiri
3.Govind
4.Magesh
5.Bala
6.Krishna



[here me denotes Ragavendra]
Balashanmugam has joined
10:15 AM me: dai magesh treat neeyum naanum senthu tharlam
Magesh has joined
me: ok va unaku?
Magesh: enna da nadakuthu
10:16 AM me: group chat da
Magesh: oh gethu....
me: bala u too can join in this chat da
Balashanmugam: mahci ......chance eh ila
yeah i joined
he wont give
u give da
Magesh: machi......ore feelings da
10:17 AM me: dai venna saavadikatha da
Magesh: y machi..
me: intha weekend domino's la kudupoma???
Magesh: saran ka
me: venum na nee avala invite pannu
10:18 AM Balashanmugam: otha..........athan pakavae matenguthu apuram enna inum...........
me: ellarum povom
enna solra?
Magesh: dai....she ll like me da
she ll be my close fren
Balashanmugam: machi kanavula kooda apdi nadakathu
10:19 AM me: oruthanuku enthirikave vakku illaya avanuku 9 -- kekutha????
Magesh: i dont want 9 da
jus 1 s enough
me: vijay venama unaku
?
Balashanmugam: rag.....already he got 4 proposals da .
10:20 AM Magesh: vijay la neeye vechiko
Balashanmugam: enna nenacha mages pathi..........
me: ya bala me too kno abt tat matter
Balashanmugam: oru nal pothum correct pandrathuku
Magesh: conditions apply for all machies
10:21 AM no shouting
it s strictly prohibited
mr.krishna vennai s struggling
10:22 AM Vedhagiri has joined
me: dai magesh avaliku yerkanave niraya proposals vanthirukama kelvipaten
Magesh: some 1 help him to join the group chat
Vedhagiri: @raga appudiya????
10:23 AM Balashanmugam: yaya he itself told ...........
thekk88@gmail.com has joined
Vedhagiri: he????
Magesh: every1 here
Balashanmugam: yep
me: @ all - enaku ava frnd tha sonna
Magesh: machi apdiya
she got many proposals ah
10:24 AM me: @ magi- machi survival s vry important da
thekk88: who r u taking abt?
me: unaku ingaye govind potti podran
Balashanmugam: at mages----thenpandi seemaiyilae therodum veedhiyilae maan pola vanthavanai yaraditharo yar aditharo...........
Magesh: :(
Vedhagiri: magesh pathuko already govind is in ur competition....
Magesh: :(
me: nee etavthu senjiye aaganum
Balashanmugam: mages manasa thethikoda..........
Magesh: govind not a problem machi
10:25 AM me: illana velaiku aagathu
Vedhagiri: y da....
????
he is also trying hard da....
Magesh: govind ll sacrifice for me
me: poda venna
Vedhagiri: i dont think....
Magesh: nanum govind um ore thatu le saprukom
Balashanmugam: echakal nayae.............]
thekk88: idhu oru polappa
me: he ws alrdy a playboy in his clg
Balashanmugam: thatu kooda poi compare pandra
10:26 AM Vedhagiri: magesh enna solla vara????
me: dai nee enna solla vara????
romba kevalama iruku da ithella
thekk88: he will share nything and everything
Magesh: machi....govind en manasa nogadika matan da
10:27 AM me: dai machi namma class la govind matum tha]
Magesh: nan straight ah solra machies....she ll be close fren for ever
me: but avaluku alrdy valiya niraya peru try panranga da
Balashanmugam: un kuthama en kuthama yara nanu kutham solla
me: avangala epdi try panna pora????
Magesh: machi...ellarayum pottu thalliduvan da
Balashanmugam: avangala enda podra nayae......asingama pesadha
10:28 AM thekk88: onnu pathalaya
Magesh: oru inai piriya nanbaragal ah pirichidama pathukanum machi
thekk88: yaar andha priya?
Magesh: sry piriyatha
Balashanmugam: at mag---sollavae ila
itho eppo
10:29 AM me: yar ra inai piriya nanbargal??/
Magesh: someone who ll always fulfill in my happiness are not encouraged to get seperated da
:(
10:30 AM i ll try my max level to stay in touch with my close ones
me: dai nee first ava kita ethavathu pesu
apram pakalam ava close ah illaya nu
Magesh: cha miss ayiduchu machi..
Vedhagiri: ha ha ha....
me: oru step edukarathu illa apram enna da close ones
10:31 AM innum 2 weeks tha
thekk88: machi idhayam murali madhri kadhala sollamaye iruthidathe
Magesh: she might ve already mistaken me n may not like me too
me: apram ava enga kooda vanthuduva
Magesh: no kadal n all
Balashanmugam: @all: athan phone no> note panitanae
Magesh: only frenship
Balashanmugam: apuram enna enga thalaiku
me: thala vazhga
Balashanmugam: kadalaya varuka vendiyathuthan micham
10:32 AM me: machi chumma apdiye hi nu oru msg anupuda
Magesh: no machi.....nan kaduvulukum mela avaluku
me: hi tis s magesh apdinu
Balashanmugam: sabbba ippovae kannakatuthae..........
Magesh: who s this nu keppa
Balashanmugam: wat abt vedha? busy wit his girlfriend?
thekk88: magesh from hcl
Magesh: veda wat happen busy with????????
me: magesh from hcl bangaloer
10:33 AM magesh from hcl bangalore
Magesh: ama apdiye nan famous figure uh
hcl bnglre ah
thekk88: vedha continuing his project
Vedhagiri: ha ha ha....
Balashanmugam: unna evanda figure nu sonnan?
Vedhagiri: no way krishna....
Balashanmugam: panni
Magesh: vedha romba ipdilam irukatha da
Balashanmugam: hello vedha
thekk88: vedha wht doing?
Vedhagiri: hellooooooooooooooooooo....o
10:34 AM me: @magesh- topic a mathadha
Vedhagiri: simply chatting....
:)
Govind has joined
Balashanmugam: wit?
me: start panra
Balashanmugam: wit whom da---vedha
?
Vedhagiri: with u people....
in this group chat
me: msg anupi na tha oru relationship start aagum
Vedhagiri: :)
Magesh: @ragav no machi....am very much interested in continuing this topic y shuld i change it
10:35 AM no da....nan kadavulukum mela da
me: i m tellin u to leave vedha
Magesh: nan epdi apdi lam pannuvan
me: come to our saranya matter
Govind: machi am there
thekk88: magesh enna da solla vara. nee pesavum maten ana ava frienda venunan eppadi da?
Balashanmugam: @all: machi why should v talk abt mag matter which is not goin to happen ?
Vedhagiri: welcome govind....
Magesh: hey saran annan came
Balashanmugam: wastin our time
me: i go wit krishna
mokka podra da
Vedhagiri: @bala correct da....
10:36 AM now govind is here....
me: nanga ivlo solrom la athukavathu try pannalm la
Govind: dai magesh...tomo will be leave for hcl guys in our batch
thekk88: magesh nee waste da
Govind: u will be dead
Vedhagiri: y govind????
Magesh: ok da...ethu nadakumo athu nanragave nadakum
Vedhagiri: ha ha ha....
Balashanmugam: hai govind..........come on machi
Vedhagiri: good da govind....
me: govind adichi thookaporan magesh a saranya kaga
Magesh: @govind...machi comedy ah thane solra
Balashanmugam: yes yes govind ku nalla nadakum unaku onum nadakathuda magee
Govind: machi..lets start poll
10:37 AM Balashanmugam: @govind: now itself i vote for u da govind
Vedhagiri: ok
me: @govind- start panra en vote unaku tha
Govind: thanks a lot
Vedhagiri: one sec everyone stop
me: magesh waste inimae
Govind: will give u big treat
Vedhagiri: v ill start polling....
Balashanmugam: magee wil get 0 votes anyway
Vedhagiri: my vote for govind
10:38 AM :)
Magesh: ok govind u give treat da...u r the winner...i give up
Govind: ya absolutely...magesh marandhu enaku vote potruvan
me: +1 for govind frm my side
Govind: athu.../
thanks captain
thekk88: magesh nee waste da
Balashanmugam: @allL:shall i tell onethin......even she wil vote for govind oly da.........ivan kadakran
Magesh: govind ku vayala pallu pola
Vedhagiri: so totally govind got 3 now....
magesh o vote
Magesh: ya ya.....not a problem..
Vedhagiri: anyone else to poll....
10:39 AM me: @magesh- nee ena vittu kodukrathu ava unna mathikala nu sollu
Magesh: ok i ll vote for govind itself...but the topic wont go on frm here
Vedhagiri: ok totally four vots for govind
so
Govind: ya finally waiting for my anjala's vote
Balashanmugam: thu...........intha poll kae arugatha illatha nai da nee
Vedhagiri: The winner is GOVIND
10:40 AM Magesh: ok i ll sign off
Govind: ok ok..thanks to my folks
Balashanmugam: sign off from her?
Govind: machi magesh is crying
Balashanmugam: or from chat?
Magesh: itha ipdiye niruthiduvom
thekk88: cool down machi
Vedhagiri: magesh bayanthutan
thekk88: its all in the game
trisha illana divya
Balashanmugam: @mag----ama machi unaku 1000 fig madiyum da
10:41 AM Vedhagiri: but divyayum elliyee....
me: enna magesh adutha aim divya ka????????
Vedhagiri: who is that divya????
raga????
Govind: do u know one proverb..kora mela soru poto 1000 kaka:)this is dedicated to magesh
me: i mean divyapriya sitting next to priyalakshmi
10:42 AM Magesh: dai dai dai
sevapu settangala
niruthunga da
me: i mean divyapriya sitting next to priyalakshmi
Magesh: venam venam
Balashanmugam: @all: he s chatting wit her also daily.........onna kooda vitu vakrathilla
Govind: ya i go with ragavendra
me: sevapu settangala???
Balashanmugam: ithellam oru polapa
10:43 AM Magesh: venam machies....i don want anyone
santhoshama
Vedhagiri: ok magesh target changed.... lets announce it to everyone....
Govind: @magesh,,,,sooooooooo happy da
Vedhagiri: anyone agrree with me????
Balashanmugam: ya v can now change to VEDHAGIRI
10:44 AM Govind: @vedha...wat?
Vedhagiri: vedhagiri offline....
Magesh: ya ya
i agree
me: @vedha...wat?
Govind: ok i agree...becos my route is clear..:)
Magesh: vedha sighiting which gal da
Balashanmugam: vedha----oh why machi chattin wit ur chellam thru phone ah?
10:45 AM Govind: @LC112..dont change the topic
Vedhagiri: no da....
Magesh: anyone tell vedha lover
Vedhagiri: i love my india....
:)
Magesh: machi ragav
Balashanmugam: @raga---who s for vedha da?
Magesh: i love indira va machi
@vedha
10:46 AM @ragav
tell da
Vedhagiri: great da....
accenture indira
Balashanmugam: helooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
Magesh: vedha loves TAMIL also
Balashanmugam: nonono
Magesh: TAMIL FLOWER
me: actually malar has been assigned to vedha da
Govind: @magesh..Tamil?
thekk88: he loves the language aa machi?
Magesh: FLOWER in tamil
Vedhagiri: dai dai
me: @magi - super da
thekk88: what flower machi?
Vedhagiri: thu thu
Govind: @vedha......congrats machi
10:47 AM me: athae tha machi
Magesh: dai dai vedha
Vedhagiri: magesh changing the topic
Balashanmugam: tamil flower ----nice name
Magesh: odatha
me: but class la innum antha alvuku soodu pidikala machi
Vedhagiri: dai dai
Magesh: how u corrected TAMIL machi
Balashanmugam: TAMIL VEDHAM nice name.............
Vedhagiri: no da
Magesh: by talking in ur super tamil ah
me: vedhamalar hpw is it da?
Govind: finally magesh's anger got burst towards vedha
Vedhagiri: magesh is changing the topic da....
thekk88: ask govind for help machi
Balashanmugam: why no da? oh she corrected u ah?@vedha
10:48 AM me: @govi - exactly
Magesh: ya ya....vedha vin vadatha malar
Govind: @krishna...who needs help?
Magesh: always fresh malar
thekk88: vedha da
me: @govi- - u r jus sittin behind her so u ve to take d initiative da
Govind: malaray mounama...mounamay...background song..
Magesh: govind help vedha da
Vedhagiri: dai magesh intha love dialogue la un allu kiitasollu....
Magesh: his face s like this:(
10:49 AM thekk88: magesh escape aa?
Magesh: dai dai
now target s vedha
Govind: ok magesh...u gave up ur sister na..so will help u
Balashanmugam: VEDHA VIN VADATHA MALAR----------wow its like TAMIL FILM title..........................
Magesh: yes da govind
cum on
me: suprer apppu
Magesh: VEDHA VIN FRESH MALAR TAMIL MALAR
Govind: folks...come include krishna and bala..
10:50 AM Balashanmugam: ok title fixed-----then HERO--VEDHA
HEROIN--?
thekk88: magesh thaan director
Magesh: HEROINE S TAMIL VEDHA
including sur name also
Govind: am the producer..
me: vedha giri s d one n oly hero
the nass hero
Vedhagiri: thu vera ethavathu director
Magesh: vedha oda love ku nan guarantee
me: sry mass hero
10:51 AM Magesh: vedha y silent
thekk88: kadhal thalapathi VEDHAGIRI
Govind: we will release the film when viruthagiri comes..
me: magesh uyirae kudavathu na unna sethu vakiren da vedha
u don worry
Magesh: engal vedha valga
Balashanmugam: @KRISH:nice da.........magesh wil direct the film wit his love failure experience..............sure it wil b a HIT
Vedhagiri: mudiyala
me: vtv part 2
Govind: superb da raga..
sobaaaaaaaaaaa
lcul
Magesh: ya ya am ready to direct the pure love between vedha N tamil..
me: to b directed by magesh(the deput directro)
10:52 AM Magesh: ar rahmun music
vedha singing
Balashanmugam: MACHI music director ----AATHISH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! k for everyone ...mages and AATHISH wil form a great combination
Magesh: ichu tha ichu tha
Govind: dai...nan producer da....evanavathu agree pannunga da..
thekk88: vedha is the next simbhu
Vedhagiri: thu
pongga da.....
me: i agree da
govind
Vedhagiri: i am offline
me: na executive producer
Magesh: apa tamil next nayanthara
Govind: ya tats fine raga..
10:53 AM me: evlo crores nalum sari
Magesh: ok da.....
Balashanmugam: govind:here too my vote for u
thekk88: vedha whats ur salary da?
Govind: irukavay iruku sun tv.....
Magesh: for 1 song...bala ll sing
me: veedha oda love kaga na nga invest pannuvom da
Vedhagiri: in HCL????
Balashanmugam: @vedha:20,000 ok va da?
Govind: we eill release the movie directly in sun tv..
thekk88: no machi for the film?
me: mount road la 2 perum pair a irukarathu pola oru cut out 100 fet ku
thekk88: TAMILLIKKAGA freeya
10:54 AM Magesh: tamil valga
Balashanmugam: ya banner is:SUN PICTURES
Vedhagiri: dai pothum da....
Govind: magesh... hero irundha kandipa villan irukanum..
so select villan da
yaru da villan?
Balashanmugam: everyone wil see the TRAILER in SUN TV ver soon
Vedhagiri: ok who is villan????
Magesh: mount road la oru banner vedha with tamil
villan s athish
Govind: dai director dog who is the villan
Balashanmugam: villan is RAGAVENDRA
Vedhagiri: thu
thu]
thu
thu
10:55 AM i wont act in this film
thekk88: magesh than villain
Vedhagiri: ok
ragavendra is ok
me: eksi
in go wit krishna
Govind: Ragavendra is alredy commited for 2 movies..
Magesh: athish s also trying to correct tamil by talking in engkl
Vedhagiri: ragavendra ccepted
Govind: accenture
Vedhagiri: .....
Govind: and R\
Balashanmugam: @vedha: ok then u go v dont need u da..............MAGESH WIL DIRECT AND ACT ALSO..................
Magesh: but vedha interested only in talkin in tamil
me: saranya failure nala magesh yamil ku try panran story ipdi kondu povom
Magesh: inga oru twist uh story la
Balashanmugam: yaayay
Vedhagiri: ok good.....
10:56 AM thekk88: vedha unnaku director than villain
Magesh: dai dai
thekk88: avana potu thalu da
me: @ govi- - wat r those 2?
Magesh: don chnge the topics da
vedha on target
thekk88: magesh semma kd da
Magesh: so v ll finish him firsrt
Govind: @raga...accenture doll and hcl Ram***
Vedhagiri: ta ta....
10:57 AM Magesh: RAM***?????
me: k da fine
Vedhagiri: na entha velaiyatuku varla....
Balashanmugam: @all:its time la........v hve to go for tea break da
its already late
me: at a tym la oru film ok so i go wit accenture
Govind: @magesh..ask raga../
thekk88: ragha lets go for the break
me: @ bala - u catch d point machi
Magesh: climax la kadal konden mari scene
10:58 AM Vedhagiri: ok lets leave ofr the tea.....
Govind: @raga...ok machi..
me: @ krish - sure shal v start?
Magesh: tamil catching vedha n athish
thekk88: ya machi
Magesh: but athish s so heavy to catch]
Vedhagiri has left
Magesh: so she ll leave off
vedha ll b saved
Balashanmugam has left
Govind: typing class gets over finally...

Really Touching

Marriage-To those who are married... Not married..and soon to be married....(An article i came across)

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you... She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce... I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chop sticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company...

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.
She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy... Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions... She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully...

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time... I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, "all my dresses have grown bigger…” I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind.... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The sales girl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I ran up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead....... I cried and cried uncontrollably and carried her for the last time from the room to the hall with tears streaming down my face and gazing at my only son, his tears rolling from his eyes, they made me cry even more. I had lost my love, my wife and a loving and caring mother and nothing I could do now to put the clock backward... I had all the time now to look at her motionless body in detail but I knew it was going to be only for a short while until she made her last journey to the Lord..... I held my son and wept again and again thinking of all the things I did not do for her when she was still alive....... & placed gently the flowers in her hands with my tears trickling on them....... she was gone forever, all my tears would not bring her back .


The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you might just save a marriage.

To those who are married… Not married... and soon to be married


THE TIME IS ALWAYS RIGHT TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT

Moral of the story is to value all the things we possess, once they are gone we have nothing but regrets!

About my hcl friends in training

guys!!!Its quite interesting to mingle up with different college friends.first i wish to give intro abt some of my jovial friends in coalesce technologies.
1.Vedhagiri from RMD
2.BalaShanmugam from RMD
3.Magesh(LC112)from RMD
4.Ragavendra from GCT
5.Saravanan from GCT and
rocking guys from my college [SVCE]
6.Naveen
7.Pals
8.Mey
9.Allan
10.Mani
11.Hemesh
12.vijaychandar
13.Krishnakumar
its going on.......

we guys are unlucky..because no ******** in our batch(but some exceptions r there).our captain Ragavendra understood our feelings and found one ****** from accenture.she is just like doll.Thanks to our captain(back ground song..antha vanatha pola manam padacha mannavanay).our gang is too punctual for tea break.i dont want to say the reason because everyone knows it..

Next Vedhagiri.. very nice guy!!!!i know him only ten days of now..but had the feel that we were friends for long time..he is that much jovial and talented guy too..

Next Magesh..
Entertaining guy in our batch.. he has one sister in our batch.her name *******.will talk much about him in next post.

Next Pals..
In short and sweet we used to say him as grand son of James Gosling.
he looks like replica of JK.Rithish.
his jokes are refreshment for us and his punch dialogs are great jokes of the year.

Next Mey...
Magesh kept new name for him as "Kadhal kondan".Much talented guy.
used to talk with system often due to much involvement in programs..


we will meet in next post abt other guys..
guys this is my first experience in blog..
so sorry if anything wrong..
feel free to express ur comments.....


With Love
Govind Prakash

sachin

They still relished it because the man who beat their team was their hero too. Sachin Tendulkar's unbeaten 89 carried Mumbai Indians to a convincing 37–run win and earned the side a place in the semifinals.